Praise. Praise for How We Love “How We Love has the capacity to change not only your marriage but every relationship that’s important in your life.”. How We Love has ratings and 99 reviews. In How We Love, relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich draw on the powerful tool of attachment theory. How We Love. Milan and Kay Yerkovich explain why the ways you and your spouse relate to each other go back to before you even met. Drawing on the.

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But I have decided upon finishing the book that this reading of it was cursory at best and I ordered it, with the workbook included, through Amazon and will be going back through it giving it the time w deserves so I can learn. They give a structured plan for identifying and overcoming our relational deficiencies. I need space and feel trapped if someone always wants to be with me all the time.

We are the sum of our history. Tim and I started reading it together last night. I recommend it to all couples. I can see where the workbook will greatly enhance not just the unpacking of the different learning styles but also give insight and guidance on how to begin to be healthy and relate well. Although the subtitle references marriage, I think How We Love would be helpful for anyone, as our attachment style affects all of our relationships and learning about it can help us become more of a secure person with anyone, not just a spouse.

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But other than that a very good book. Definitely will read it again. In How We Love, relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich draw on the powerful tool of attachment theory to show how you Identify the source of missteps in your marriage—and learn exactly what you can do about it!


Being able to look back and reflect upon my own family memories and lack thereof helped me to understand how I react to experiences and relationships, fraternal, familial, and romantic notwithstanding. Then it got into nitty gritty marriage stuff. I am very good at anticipating the needs of others and meeting those needs.

And the Yerkovich’s did a good job balancing between the male and female responses to the love styles. My parent s acted more like kids than parents. I found it very helpful – not only in understanding myself and my spouse better, but also for viewing my role as a parent in yeerkovich new light. I highly recommend this book!

If you have ever found yourself frustrated by the cycles of disagreement in how you relate to your spouse or friends, give this book a read. There are many ideas that I am continuing to think about and would recommend wd to anyone looking to understand how to better connect with their loved ones.

And what the Yerkovich’s include in matters of God makes so much sense and is so appropriate that I would hope even those not subscribing to religion would sense the wisdom of what they included.

How We Love, Expanded Edition

This is not only helpful for married couples, though it is extremely helpful in this context. I agree and understand that where we come from and how we’re raised plays a strong role in relationships, but I ho hoping for more of a “now approach”. It was very confusing for me at first because I saw myself in most of what was described, and identified strongly with three of the styles and mildly with the other two.

That type of understanding is essential for the Christian, as they are called to live a life where their actions attempt to put others before themselves, and in doing so they must understand how other people think lovr behave in order to determine w Although unmarried, this book has a lot to offer in terms of self-awareness of the way in which we love. The book always went to childhood for why someone acted the way they did, and childhood does greatly affect a person, but there are many things that can effect a person.


I went into this one thinking I’d find insight on how to strengthen an already strong marriage. An accurate assessment requires honesty and careful self-reflection.

I think I can categorize myself as a vascillator, but more importantly, I’ve thought back through my life to try to understand where my reactions come from. This book was revelatory for me. Paperbackpages.

Crying kids really annoy me; if they were my kid, it would stop. We are still using the workbook materials for reflection and dialogue together. Start Where You Are.

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My marriage is different today because of the simple, profound help I discovered in these pages. This one kind of counseled you out of a problem, rather herkovich helping you prevent one There are no discussion topics on this book yet. Much misunderstanding could be avoided through the practices they suggest. The last book that we read by a married couple got muddy in some areas, because we did not know who was saying what. People yerkovcih describe me as intimidating. The workbook is an excellent tool for reflection and growth.

People with a secure love style are comfortable making emotional connections, and they have the ability to form close bonds with others in a way that feels natural. Jan 30, Holly rated it really liked it.